In the movie “Back To The Future 2”, Marty McFly time travels into the future and is able to see his future self, but what if your future self could time travel back to you right now. What would your future self share with you? Having been through what you are going through now, we asked some “future selves” what they would share with their past selves. So here it is, some insight from those that have been there, done that and survived!
Joanne Saab, Registered Dietitian
Sara Westbrook, Creator of UPower concerts www.sarawestbrook.com, Motivational Speaker/Singer
Amanda, Web Designer
Melissa J, Registered Nurse, Director of Education, mom to two almost tween girls
“No boy (or girl) is worth changing your beliefs or damaging your self-worth.”
“It will get so much better… And you are absolutely perfect just the way you are.”
“Everyone is going through things that make them feel uneasy. Don’t be afraid to ask for help…you are not alone!”
“Be the kindest.”
Stacey Lee Guse
Mom, Wife, Lead Vocalist for The Western Swing Authority
” If you have a passion in something (art, drama, dance, collecting, reading, photography, sports etc.) enjoy it and pursue it! Developing skills is easier to do when you’re young, and it is great to have a developed hobby or skill as an adult! Just because you’re young doesn’t mean you can’t be an expert at something. If you don’t have a passion, don’t be afraid to try new things. A curious and determined attitude will take you so far. “
Laura Allen, Medical Student
“Do not seek validation from the boys around you; you do not need their approval. They are struggling too. Eventually, you will recognize all that you have to offer and you will gain more self-respect. This is not always an easy time but it also will probably be one of the best times of your life. Be patient and always be kind. “
Alexis Evanich, CALA, Director of Corporate Relations
1. Take advice from the adults who care about you. You might think that your parents, or teachers, don’t know what they’re talking about and you don’t want to take their advice. Think about it…do you know more now than you did when you were 6? Exactly! Your parents were your age once, and they know a lot more than you think they do. Listen to them. Learn from their experience. Trust me, you’ll thank them later.
2. You will make mistakes, learn from them. No one gets through life without making mistakes. Some are small ones, some are big ones. The key is to learn from all of them and use what you have learned to help make better decisions in the future. Mistakes you make shape who you are, and you will use this knowledge for the rest of your life.
3. Always be who you are. Who else can you be? You may want to try to be someone you’re not, to impress your friends or try to fit in. Trust me, this doesn’t work. The most important advice to any girl is to find out who you are and stay true to you. You may not know who you are just yet, it takes some time. But know that the best you will ever be is when you are comfortable being yourself.
4. Every day is a stepping stone in your life. Sometimes you may feel that you only need to live in the moment. You may say “I don’t care about tomorrow, I’m just going to enjoy today”. Yes, definitely enjoy today. But everything you do today has an impact on tomorrow. Bad decisions made now may have bad results down the road. So never forget to consider the consequences of your actions. Good or bad, you can’t go back for a “do over.”
5. You are beautiful. Over the next few years, you will be going through a lot of changes. Some will be exciting, some confusing, some downright scary. You may wish you looked like this model, or had the hair of that actress, or had the smooth skin of this friend of yours. Beauty starts from the inside out, and the most beautiful thing in the world is confidence. And confidence comes from knowing you are an amazing person!”
Cheryl, Vice President of Marketing
“That voice you hear….the one your ignore….it is your gut. Start listening to it because it is almost always right.”
“All the time you spent trying to fit in…it won’t matter, because eventually everyone goes their own way. Spend that time being yourself. She is not so bad.”
Tania Buckrell Pos, Art Advisor, London, England
Ebehi, Recent college graduate trying to find her way in the world
Did any of these insights appeal to you or help you? Let us know. What have you learned that you want to pass on to those younger than you? Comment with your insight that would help other girls.